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I apologize for disappearing. I still read here when I can, and keep track of stories. But it's mostly on my phone where it becomes difficult to respond.
So many people with ongoing traumas-Dragn, What's Right, HFSSC, others...please know that I am holding you in the LIGHT and you are in my daily thoughts. It feels so awful that we anonymous friends cannot provide any real life help.

We have had a busy summer, mostly good stuff, some age related injuries and illnesses that require more attention than I wish they did. We are overall healthy for our age and lucky in that our health benefits are excellent.

We have a new grandson! Born to DS2 in NC in early July. His wife was probably the healthiest pregnant woman I have ever met, and yet she wound up with severe complications. The baby was unresponsive and had to be ventilated. Both are perfect now, but we almost lost both of them. Scary times.

He is BEAUTIFUL with bright red hair. She, God bless her, was able to get him to nurse after a week where she didn't even see him. Amazing. My son stepped right up, feeding, changing, not sleeping, "keeping him alive" for the week. We helped, her parents helped, just the way it is supposed to be. I'm very proud of both of them. We plan to go see them about once a month. It's a longish drive but not too bad.

They plan to put him in a daycare center at 3.5 months. Five to one baby to adult ratio. I'm not happy but keeping my mouth shut. They could afford a nanny or au pair and DS works remotely. But apparently finding a suitable person is hard to do.

We also continue to babysit our local granddaughter frequently. If they don't need a sitter, we make excuses to steal her. Almost 2, her vocabulary is expressive, her sense of humor and justice well defined and her problem solving skills are fun to watch. In the thread that asked what we wanted to be called, I wanted "Grammy." That has become "Gigi" and my husband's wish of "Grandpa" has become "PaPa." She is the boss of that.

Hopefully, they'll be here in early Sept for a beach vacation and here for Christmas.

Number 4, How is your baby! Tush, yours?

Hi, Lionne, good to hear from you!

Congratulations on your new grandson! Is he your second grandchild?

Must have been so scary for your family with birth complications for both your DIL and your grandson. Thank God they are both fine and it sounds as though the baby is thriving! I understand about the daycare, ugh, especially for a baby who cannot yet communicate. I used to do social work with developmentally disabled individuals, and one of my clients was a worker at a great daycare, very clean but still lacking. Some of those babies/toddlers would be there up to 12 hours a day.

My first grandchild (girl) is almost two years old, and what a delight. Unfortunately, they live in Florida, I live in NJ, and my WH works in Texas. However, I've managed to visit her several times this year, once for a week in February, they were here for nine days for my youngest son's wedding in March, I flew back to FL in April and spent the weekend with them, back in June for a 7-day family vacation at WDW, and just got back on Monday from six days with her, four at WDW again.

Her birthday is the first week of October, so flying down AGAIN for a week, stealing her for three days, then planning to be a snowbird this year staying at our Florida home from mid December til mid February. Unfortunatey, they live on the FL west coast and our home is in the Orlando area about 1 hour 45 minute drive. No biggie but I have a dog so when I visit them for the day I have to get someone to come in and let my dog out. Hopefully I can take her to my house for a couple of days at a time.

Getting expensive going back and forth!

Have fun on your beach vacation, and I hope and pray everything works out for your family to be together for Christmas. Keep us updated, I enjoy "meeting" members here who are about the same age and have the same interests.

Hi Lionne, thanks for stopping in. I'm glad your daughter in law and grandson are doing well.

SOOOOO happy to see your name and read your post!!!

And CONGRATS on the new addition!!!

I hope the injuries / illnesses are presently at bay.

I really like "Grammy", but of course you are right…thi little ones have the final say.

My granddaughter is now five years old. The other day she went to her first day of kindergarten. And she came home, and her mother asked her if she had learned anything, she scoured and said, "no". Then her mom asked what all they did.

She said, "My teachers name is Mrs. H and she is nice".
"We will be eating there."
And…wait for it…
"I’m not allowed to touch anyone’s hair."

Bahahahahaha!!!🤣🤣🤣

Please hang out here from time to the time if you can…we miss you!

Good to hear from you. Sorry about the illnesses/injuries - we jsut don't recover as easily later in life as when we were younger.

Enjoy the vacation and the grandkids.

No babies any more. GS starts HS before the end of the month.

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Glad things settled down for you.

Number 4, How is your baby! Tush, yours?

He is wonderful, 13 months old yesterday. Walking everywhere, thinks he is talking, is starting to say a few real words. Loves music, and dances. Happy sweet, and easy. I am the luckiest Grandma around, I get him every other weekend from 4pm on Friday, until Sunday at 6pm.

Glad to see you back, Lionne. Your presence has been missed, but I assumed it was because you were busy doing baby stuff. I'm glad the pregnancy 'held' this time, but sorry she had to go through so much to get to the finish line. Glad everyone is OK now. I can't imagine how scared you all were!

I also had a hard time when D told me grandson was going to daycare at three months, and keep my mouth shut. I feel like that's just about when you start to get settled into a predictable (temporarily) routine and things settle down. Yes, he gets sick a lot, but EVERYONE has told me he will have the most robust immune system by the time he starts school, much more so than the ones who stay home with nannies and au pairs. Thankfully the daycare they are using has a 2-3:1 baby to adult ratio - that's if all the babies (well, at this point they're really all toddlers) are there any given day. Otherwise, it's even better. Like his mom, he only has two teeth so far, but we are starting to see where his vampire teeth are emerging, so he will look odd for a while! 🤣 He's a chunky monkey, but really good-natured, unless he's sick. He has developed a little separation anxiety, so when we first arrived in town almost four weeks ago, I let him set the tone for how and when he wanted to come to me. Now he gives both me and H the biggest smiles when he sees us walk through the door, and we routinely take him out for walks in the stroller in the neighborhood while mom and dad stay home. He loves his water table and we've taken him swimming in the pool at our apt complex and he loved it!

I don't know if you were aware that I was diagnosed with early-stage breast cancer about a month before we had to be out of our CA home, which we sold. I had a lumpectomy 2.5 weeks before we left town and drove across country with our pooch. I've had an appt with a radiation oncologist at Dana-Farber, and will start that within the next couple of weeks. We are living in a temporary apartment while our house is undergoing renovation - it's actually moving along really well, so we hope to be in it within four months. If you don't remember, the house is four doors down from D! Two of the three weekends we've been here, grandson and/or D have been sick (D had strep plus a double ear infection this past weekend), so we've spent a lot of time over there helping out. With a radiation schedule looming, I'm going to be a little more reluctant to spend time with them if anyone is sick, until I'm done. I finally started working out again this week, and have started PT to address my hip bursitis that goes back to last fall, so I've had my challenges with health issues, too.

Hope we see you around more often when things settle down for you.