Lies and more lies

I have to vent and I am thankful for this forum for the ability to do that. I am angry and hurt. Well, I did contact ow and I am sorry I did. I must be stupid. I had hoped she would give me the information my wh would not. I suppose I thought she would do the right thing. Nope. I am just floored with her manipulative,all about her attitude. I can't wrap my head around it. It was a stupid decision. She wanted to have coffee. I'll pass on that. I am done with her and him, I think I have enough to know what happened. He gets defensive,he told me he didn't want to divorce. But, the lies just keep coming. He also has a porn problem. I knew sometimes he watched it and was embarrassed. Before all this I hoped it would pass. It hasn't,and now I see that in a different lens. He's still lieing. We had talked about it and agreed he would tell me when he had the urge and we'd work it through. Didn't happen, but he did tell me he slipped once. It has only been a few days since our conversation. I feel disgusted,angry and I feel like I am still being cheated on. I'm over it. I don't know how to handle this.

8 comments posted: Monday, May 29th, 2023

Advice please

Well, I had posted in general upon the discovery of my ws ea. Since then we have been working on our marriage and it does seem to have improved. He has been willing to listen to me and answer questions about why and what happened. Of course,more details have been put out there. However, I am still struggling. There is something that is not sitting right and I can't place what it is. He says there has been nc since the last I know about. What's really strange is that this woman had sent a text saying that she has been hurt and she did nothing wrong. The vibe was they were just friends and she's now just worried about her job and how my ws is harming her and her family,and how cruel he is being to her. She also left an angry vm. Well, that's simply not true. I want so badly to contact her, although,to what end? He gets angry and defensive and wants to move on and I'm stuck. I know I am being petty with this, but this is not her first time inserting herself in someone else's marriage that's with the same company, and I am disgusted with her and whatever manipulations she is serving up. I don't know what to do.

26 comments posted: Thursday, May 18th, 2023