Is there a difference between loving your SO and being in love with your SO

Hi all, we are 2+ years past DDay, and I just keep coming back to all the hurt which will never go away, I will never forget and will never forgive 100%. But every day gets better, mostly.

FYI, he is doing everything right, completely sorry and will do anything to keep our marriage together. I am happy 90% of the time.

But, I sometimes wonder if I am in love with him. I love him because he is my partner (together 34 years, married 27, 2 wonderful children).

Is there a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? My MC suggested that I fell in love in the beginning of our relationship, so maybe just loving him is okay. What is love to you? I envision people coming home from work or whatever and jumping into each others arms, hugs, kisses, etc. I don’t do that, he probably would now, but not before. I question if I am in love with him or just love him because he is a generally good man, good father, and we’ve shared a lot of great memories together.

I hope this makes sense. I just wonder if I love him like a married couple should love each other. I understand to each their own, but curious of your thoughts on love.

Thank you!

26 comments posted: Monday, November 11th, 2024

How do you celebrate your anniversary?

Hello, this is my first post. I might not have all the acronyms down just yet. I am 2 years and 2 months from d-day. I am choosing to stay with my husband of 27 years married, 33 years together, and 2 wonderful young men, our children. I’ve aged myself now!

My question is, how do you celebrate your anniversary? We’ve had 3 since he told me about the affair. The first one happened just after he told me and he was staying with his parents at the time. Since then I have not wanted to celebrate the day yet. I have a hard time giving him a card saying how wonderful of a husband he is, when he wasn’t. Just curious what others do.

Thanks!

18 comments posted: Thursday, October 17th, 2024