Topic is Sleeping.
onlytime (original poster member #45817) posted at 1:45 PM on Saturday, June 4th, 2016
For the past few months BF13 and I have been working with an MC that uses EFT. The change in how we view each other, and how we engage with one another now, has been profound.
When we looked up EFT we found this workbook, bought it, and have been doing an exercise a week between sessions that we bring up in our appointments.
For those that are unsure of what is different about EFT and other therapies, EFT focuses on attachment bonds and encourages partners to gain an understanding of their own, and their partners, emotions and to share those things with one another in ways that will help to strengthen the relationship.
I would highly recommend this book to those who are in R with a genuinely remorseful WS and that want to strengthen their relationship.
For those who are interested, the authors are Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald.
I would be interested in hearing from those of you who do get it and work through it (or from those of you who already have).
R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela
demolishedinside ( member #47839) posted at 5:28 PM on Sunday, June 5th, 2016
Ok, can you give an example of an exercise? It is a lot of money to me, and I want to be sure we are up for this before I even go there.
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
onlytime (original poster member #45817) posted at 11:32 PM on Sunday, June 5th, 2016
I have been given permission to post a link for a preview of the book, as there are a couple versions and this is the most recent one. The preview gives you a good idea of what to expect from it.
https://books.google.ca/books?id=3EFHBAAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover&dq=an+emotionally+focused+workbook+for+couples+pdf&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjB39vz75HNAhVVfVIKHRFwBXUQuwUIKjAA#v=onepage&q&f=false
I can probably post pictures of a couple of the exercises that are not included in the preview if you want a better idea of what some of the exercises look like.
The workbook is a little pricy but if you are at a point in your healing where you are both trying to build a stronger bond with one another it is worth every penny.
R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela
Topic is Sleeping.