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Saw xwh first time today after 1 yr of divorce and is dont regret it

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 Brokenbetrayed123 (original poster new member #80181) posted at 5:57 AM on Sunday, March 31st, 2024

I saw him while visiting his sister. It was awkward. But I admitted to his sister, im still phyiscally attracted to him. But I still don't regret divorcing him. I am in a better place and casually dating someone right now. I'd never regret divorcing him. I couldn't be with a cheater of his caliber.

BW:29 UH:30DDAY:03/2021PA:3wks EA:6months(Long Distance) Dated: 6 yrs- Married 4 Status: divorced

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 Brokenbetrayed123 (original poster new member #80181) posted at 6:02 AM on Sunday, March 31st, 2024

*first time today*

BW:29 UH:30DDAY:03/2021PA:3wks EA:6months(Long Distance) Dated: 6 yrs- Married 4 Status: divorced

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:14 PM on Sunday, March 31st, 2024

I'm glad to get the awkward first meeting out of the way.

It's ok to be attracted, but that doesn't mean you act on the attraction.

After reading your first post, I doubt he's done any work to change. He'd treat you the same way.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:41 PM on Sunday, March 31st, 2024

I saw my ex a few months back. I didn’t even realize he was in the room. And I felt nothing- actually a little repelled.
I was glad to have gotten over that, too. Now I don’t worry about seeing him around.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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SI Staff ( Moderator #10) posted at 8:46 PM on Monday, April 1st, 2024

Fixed your title smile

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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:30 PM on Tuesday, April 2nd, 2024

im still phyiscally attracted to him

This should fade as well. Meaning when your brain reconcile with your heart the type of pain this person did you, it turns them ugly.

I found as life goes on, I met folks that became more attractive once I got to know what a good person they are. AND the opposite, folks that had an initial physical attractiveness became unattractive once I figured out they were not a good person.

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 Brokenbetrayed123 (original poster new member #80181) posted at 7:15 PM on Tuesday, April 2nd, 2024

Sorry, im not sure how to reply to individual posts.

Yep, he hasn't changed at all. His friend took a vacation with him few weeks ago and said he could see no positive changes in his character and that he was still the same. Im not surprised, I knew he wasn't going to change anytime soon (if ever).

I'm glad we've all experienced that first encounter and are doing okay;).

[This message edited by Brokenbetrayed123 at 7:15 PM, Tuesday, April 2nd]

BW:29 UH:30DDAY:03/2021PA:3wks EA:6months(Long Distance) Dated: 6 yrs- Married 4 Status: divorced

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 2:07 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2024

Revulsion. That’s what I feel every time I see my ex. Zero attraction whatsoever. Breakup still on!!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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