Sharkman ( member #56818) posted at 11:24 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2025
Did you tell your wife that you were doing it? It's an exceptional way to determine if she's remaining no contact.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 12:04 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2025
Nicely done! The OBS now has agency over her own life and decisions.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:23 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2025
Good job. I know it can feel like you just made it easier for the cheaters, but it just makes the truth come out sooner.
And the OBS probably had been waiting for the "other shoe to drop" for years. When I was in false R with my WS, that was how it felt. He never did the work and I could tell. I didn’t want that to be the truth, but it was. And my gut knew. My nervous system knew. My fight-or-flight knew.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
HeadPhoneBear (original poster new member #85723) posted at 8:05 AM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2025
Did you tell your wife that you were doing it? It's an exceptional way to determine if she's remaining no contact.
Nope, for this exact reason! This is where her actions speak louder than words...
Sharkman ( member #56818) posted at 12:25 PM on Thursday, January 30th, 2025
Well done!
I'm sure your head is kicking your ass right now, but this is so encouraging and inspirational to read. We're all extremely proud and excited for the long strides you've taken in such a short time. Read through some stories here, not everyone is so action-focused. You are saving yourself YEARS of recovery by takling things now when they are harder, rather than waffling and letting things snowball.
